Greetings
brethren!!!
Today
I will give you something very potential just to share with you one of the
Chapters from the book, "SECRETS FOR A HAPPIER MARRIAGE: A Bed of
Thorn-less Roses" in a very summarized form. The Chapter is about
Parenting and Rising children in Godly manners. You may be surprised, why
parenting and rising of children is discussed in a book talking about marriage!
All marriages are expecting to bring about children, in most of marriages,
children's manners have impacts (negative or positive) to the happiness of
particular marriage. Therefore, happiness in marriage goes simultaneously with
parenting and rising of children.
Currently the world has
become lawless and wicked, full of violence. It is threatening most of good
mannered parents on how they can rise and teach their children Godly ways to
make a better generation out of them when the world is teaching us evil ways
The holy Bible on
Deuteronomy 6:6-7 says, “And these words that I command you today
shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and
shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way,
and when you lie down, and when you rise.” In these lines we learn two
major lessons; first we should make
the words of God our daily life (…and shall
talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when
you lie down, and when you rise…) and diligently teach these words to our
children (…you shall teach them
diligently to your children…) so they become their lives (Deuteronomy
12:28). There is a saying, “fold a fish when it is still fresh”.
Good
teachers are those deeply knowing and understanding what they are teaching. You
can never teach a lesson that you need to be taught and make somebody
understands.
As
parents we should deepen our relations and understanding of God and
Christianity. Thereafter we can be able to teach our children. Once we are
living the word of God and do Godly manners then our children may learn from
us. We need to teach our children about God, heavenly Father and Christianity,
making those very firmly understanding and live Christianity ways and they
become good Christians and witnesses of God. A good Christian may defend his
beliefs and faiths on God and Christianity against atheists and other evil
beliefs and faiths.
Strong
and stable marriage determines good parenting of children and vice versa.
Children learn from what they observe daily. If they observe love, unity and
respect from their parents they will grow to make love, unity and respect to
parents and others their ways of life. Therefore, rising children to Godly
manners with shaky marriage is difficult; however it is very easy with strong
and stable marriage. Marriage comes first, strengthen your marriage then raise
your children to Godly manners.
Nowadays
most of parents are reading different parenting books from famous authors, it
is a good idea, but you should make the holy Bible your number one reference.
God created marriage and family, you should consult Him through His words
(Bible) first.
The
best way of teaching our children the Godly manners is through home Bible
studies. At least twice or once a week we should have a comprehensive Bible
study at home with our children. Not only it will strengthen their Christianity
beliefs or faiths, understanding of God, but also it will teach them Godly
manners and make them the better people among the evil generation of the world.
In
day cares, schools and colleges children may learn or hear something new which
may raise their curiosity and doubts. They will obvious have some questions in
their minds; some may be annoying and difficult. When they ask you these
questions you should answer them in a polite and wise ways. Avoiding their
questions will increase their curiosity and doubts to seek more, and mind you,
the world will provide them answers which teach them the evils.
It
is not the duties and responsibilities of the church, but the first God’s given
duty and responsibility of the parents to protect child’s mind. Children are
easy to learn new lessons of life. In the world full of false and evil
teachings, which destructs children’s wellbeing, it is the first major duty and
responsibility of parents toward their children. Teach your children the truth
so that they may know the false when they encounter one, before it may spoils
their hearts and minds.
Jesus
blessed children when parents brought them to Him (Mark 10:13-16). Parents
should also bless children for a better future. Blessings to our children show
that we are committed for their better future and we are wishing them the best
throughout of their lives. This will increase children’s trust to parents and
beliefs and faith to God.
In
life, experience matters for self dependence, it is not necessary a formal
experience, but it should be an informal work experience, skills and knowledge.
For there are more informal works as daily schedule of activities at home
parents may be doing and managing include; farming, carpentry, livestock
keeping, family business. Children should learn these experiences from their
parents at their early lives. We have seen most of family ventures die with
parents it is because the left children had learned no skills, knowledge and
experience to keep family ventures after their parents. And for those children lacking formal knowledge,
becomes dependent, at least with informal work knowledge, they can run their
lives independent.
Children
needs parents’ time more than anything they may need in their life but most of
parents are busy with other social and economic life activities. Children may
not express how strongly they need parents’ time but deep in their heart they
are really need it. Providing for their needs, all of their needs, without your
time with them are like nothing to them. There is a saying, “A better present
poor father than absent rich father”. Parents time with children express love
and care in actions than words.
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FOR A HAPPIER MARRIAGE: A Bed of Thorn-less Roses” from this LINK.
May the Almighty Heavenly Father, good God bless you abundantly, in Jesus name. Amen.
